When in Doubt, Get Evaluated
Sometimes parents just know when something is wrong with their child. Our “inner sense” kicks in, and we’re able to realize that something isn’t right when no one else is.
Unfortunately, this doesn’t seem to apply to many of us who have children that are affected by the Autism Spectrum. My theory is that because our children were born this way (debatable, I know), their quirks are normal to our every day life. These are all things that I had said before the label of Autism came into our lives:
- “Sure my son is a little different, aren’t we all?”
- “Boys sometimes talk later than girls, that’s normal.”
- “He’s just shy, that’s why he sits in the corner at daycare.”
- “He loves his cars, he can just sit there and roll them back and forth all day.. he seems really interested in the spinning of the tires.”
- “It’s kind of weird that he’s so sensitive to the grass, I guess he just doesn’t want to get dirty.”
It wasn’t until someone put all of the signs together, and then explained to me that all of his “quirks” combined were enough for a strong diagnoses, that I finally realized that something was wrong. It rocked my world. My wife and I were in so much shock, that we literally cried for days. Having someone tell you that your child has a learning disability, and that he would struggle through his entire life, is not something any parent ever wants to hear.
After my son was diagnosed, a family member told me that they had a feeling that something was wrong with our son. She was too afraid to confront me about it, because she knew that she could have been wrong and was sure that we would likely become very defensive. I honestly don’t know how I would’ve reacted, but I’m sure that I would’ve been upset at the idea. I wish that she would’ve told me right away though. Her suggestion might have been enough for me to take our son to a specialist. Instead, we learned by mistake many months later.
Possible Link Between Autism and Pesticides
EDIT: After doing some additional research on this subject, it seems that the correlation between the pesticides and autism is pretty weak. If you’d like to read a great post by a skeptic, AutismDiva, click here. She gets into the fine details of the study, and even has a link to the paper itself.
When people ask me what I think is causing the sudden increase of Autism in our country, and I tell them that if I had to take a guess, Autism is increasing because of some kind of environmental factors that we’re exposing ourselves to. The cases are just so random and unbiased, and the numbers continue rising so much, that it’s hard for me to think that it could be anything else.
I just read this short article from NBC San Diego, stating the following:
Researchers for the California Department of Public Health say two pesticides used on cotton and some other crops may be linked to autism.
Apparently the researchers studied a group of women who lived near fields that were sprayed with pesticides, and their results were pretty scary. Obviously it’s not conclusive by any means, but hopefully it will help motivate further research.
NBC San Diego: “Study Finds Possible Link Between Pesticides, Autism”
Autism - What to Do First
Someone has mentioned that your child might have Autism. What do you do now?
Diagnosed with Autism, Now What?
As far as I can tell, every parent who has just heard the diagnoses of their child goes through the following stages: